Xiu Erdai's daily essays

2936_ Grasp the important things

Xie Qinwei: "It's true, who wants to marry a mother... Bah, I was misled by you. Now we are talking about Taoist couples, not lovers or wives in the ordinary sense... Why do you use 'mother' as an analogy?" Senior brother?"

Me: "Because my dad has a stronger sense of presence?"

Xie Qinwei: "... Please don't make up your mind anymore. If you think about it, I'm going to kneel in fright."

Me: "Pei Feng is over there, there is no loss if you kneel down senior."

Xie Qinwei: "Said the couple. Don't be crooked anymore."

Me: "You were the one who made the mistake."

Xie Qinwei: "It was you who caused it. Dao couple, Dao comes first, and the key point is the compatibility of Dao. Do you and the Dao of Eldest Brother... fit?"

Me: "There is no conflict. The general direction must be the same. Senior brother's way is Yunxiazong, and my way can never go against Yunxiazong. By the way, the way of all inner disciples of Yunxiazong can not go against Yunxiazong."

Xie Qinwei: "..."

Me: "However, the degree of compatibility between me and the senior brother's Tao is indeed higher than that of most disciples with him, and it may be much higher, because to a certain extent, I was brought up by the senior brother. My understanding of the cultivation world You know, the most basic part was established under the guidance of senior brother and my father. Although Elder Huigu told me a lot of knowledge, but for the establishment of my worldview, her contribution is second to senior brother. Elder Huigu and I Mother's contribution is about the same."

Xie Qinwei: "It's really complicated. It's hard to believe that you can figure out such a complicated thing with your level of confusion."

Me: "Although I sometimes get confused because I remember too many things, I'm not really low in IQ. The external things are too complicated for me to understand, but for myself, at least I can grasp the important things good."

Me: "I have really thought about the relationship between me and senior brother. While Dad is retreating, let me tell you that when I read the article about my father and son written by senior brother Mei Shuanli, I even thought about whether I was You can really become Daddy's companion."

Xie Qinwei: "Okay, Second Young Master Pei, shut up, I already know that you have a big brain and dare to think about anything."

Me: "What's wrong with crossing the line when thinking? Think about it, and just follow the rules when doing things."

Xie Qinwei: "What if you can't follow the rules when you do things after you figure it out?"

Me: "If you really want to understand and are only willing to do unruly things, then do it. As long as you know what you are doing and can afford the consequences of doing so, it is your own business. I am very happy that after I figured it out Everything I do is within the rules, although I am not sure whether this kind of compliance is because I really agree with the rules, or because I am afraid of the consequences of violating the rules and I mentally imply that I follow the rules when I make a decision. In short, I'm delighted with the outcome."

2937_All parties know

Xie Qinwei: "Then, how did you deny the father-son relationship?"

Me: "Looking at my father's face, I shivered and denied it. My mother really had the courage back then, and she was able to deal with that cold face."

Xie Qinwei: "I guess, have you considered brotherhood?"

Me: "My brother doesn't fit my aesthetics, I mean personality, his face is okay."

Xie Qinwei: "Does the person involved know what you have considered?"

Me: "I know. My sister even laughed at my brother for being unattractive, and my brother said that he is not interested in me either."

Xie Qinwei: "I seem to understand why your Tongmingguo is so tolerant."

Me: "Because my father has always been calm and takes everything weird as normal. He is my confidence."

Xie Qinwei: "So how did the elder brother get crossed off from your list of Taoist companions? Isn't it just a child's play just thinking about whether it is suitable for sex?"

Me: "That's actually a very critical factor. Although the Taoist couple is the first and the second, but the dual cultivation is an unavoidable project for the Taoist couple. Although the dual cultivation includes the integration of the Tao, it is also true. There is physical passion. And that passion changes the relationship between two people, making it more intimate, less distanced, more affecting to each other."

Me: "I don't want the relationship between me and senior brother to develop in that direction, and he is the same. Yunxiazong is the way of senior brother, and he will never put me on the same position as Yunxiazong, because I Although my way will definitely not violate Yunxiazong, but it will definitely not become Yunxiazong. There is a difference that cannot be ignored. If I become the Taoist companion of the senior brother, it doesn't matter in a short time, but the further I go, when the senior brother The deeper the degree of fusion between senior brother and Yunxia Sect, the more I will become an obstacle, a burden that must be discarded, and this is obviously not the way of existence that a Taoist companion should have."

Me: "As for the elder brother, as I said just now, he is too strong, he is a trustworthy senior, guide, and partner, but a partner, no. The intimate relationship of a partner will make me have more demands on the other party. Thoughtfulness, gentleness, sharing, and joint responsibility... The elder brother may be considerate and gentle, but he is a leader, he is used to controlling the pace, I can only cooperate, even when it seems that he cooperates with me, he will Grasp the direction."

Me: "There is no problem with such an obvious subordinate relationship in a short period of time, but I will be dissatisfied after a long time; if the elder brother deliberately suppresses himself and gives me the control because he is worried about my dissatisfaction, he will suppress it."

Me: "So, no matter from my point of view or the point of view of the senior brother, we will only get hurt if we both become Taoist couples."

2938_Road

Xie Qinwei: "Did you think so much before you started? Maybe you will find other solutions after you start?"

Me: "Tao Companion, Tao comes first, Tao is a matter of a lifetime, and so is Tao Companion. Before the beginning, everything is indeed just speculation, but some things can be vetoed by the method of elimination. Irreconcilable contradictions, there is no need to start .”

Xie Qinwei: "Why doesn't your way become Yunxiazong?"

Me: "Look at Ms. Yunxia. Oh, on a side note, I'm not saying that senior brother and Ms. Yunxia will become Taoist couples."

Xie Qinwei: "...I didn't think so, thank you."

Me: "Because Ms. Yunxia is regarded by many people as the incarnation of the Yunxia Sect, but in fact she is the guardian of the Yunxia Sect, not the Yunxia Sect itself."

Xie Qinwei: "I really know."

Me: "I explain because this part of the content is related to what I'm going to say next. It's not that I don't trust you, although you are really confused about the issue of Taoist companions. Ms. Yunxia is the guardian of the Yunxia Sect, and what she values ​​is treating you well." What is most important to the Yunxia Sect? Disciples. Even if the Yunxia Sect is destroyed, as long as the disciples remain, the Yunxia Sect can be rebuilt. In other words, as long as there is a qualified Yunxia Sect disciple, the Yunxia Sect will not Complete destruction, therefore, Yunxia Sect is willing to protect disciples with temporary or serious injuries."

Me: "I won't. Although I also have people who are willing to die to protect them, even though they are also disciples of Yunxia Sect, what I protect is my loved ones and those who are close to me, not because of their disciples of Yunxia Sect. identity."

Me: "So my way will not completely coincide with Yunxiazong."

Xie Qinwei: "In your imagination, what is the way of your Taoist companion?"

Me: "I didn't think about it, anyway, everyone I know has vetoed it."

Xie Qinwei: "Take it out slowly."

Xie Qinwei: "Then tell me, what will the Dao of the elder brother and Taoist couple be like?"

Me: "Look at the current master, the former master, the former former master..."

Xie Qinwei: "Stop. You read a lot of information, can you tell me, is there anyone who is the head of this sect and married a Taoist couple?"

Me: "Don't be so pessimistic, there are still some. But I don't know exactly what kind of Tao that Taoist companion is."

Me: "About Dao, my understanding is very limited, just listen to it, it's just my superficial understanding. I can't guarantee that one day in the future I will feel that the Dao of the big brother fits with mine, and I can be with you." He has become a Taoist couple, and I can't guarantee whether I will feel that father-son love and brother love can try one day in the future, but at least for now, I can't accept it."

2939_ relatives

Xie Qinwei: "Why do you have to put Senior Brother together with Elder Pei and Senior Brother Pei Sen?"

Me: "Because in my heart, Elder Brother is as close as they are. Although there is no blood relationship, he is an older brother, who is as close as my own brother. Blood relationship is a bond that forms a relationship between relatives, but it is not the only one." Bond. The Taoist couple relationship can make two unrelated people become relatives, and the same family can also be regarded as a kind of relative relationship. Conversely, even if there is a blood relationship, if it is not well managed, it will eventually become a stranger. "

Xie Qinwei: "Like me."

Xie Qinwei's kinship was not very good in this life, and it seems that the previous life was not very good either.Before entering Yunxiazong, he was actually following the standard upgrade route: his parents died when he was young, he was bullied, tolerated, worked hard to improve himself, and waited for his soaring sky to take revenge on those who bullied him.Entering Yunxiazong and having a great sect as a backer is the first step to soaring into the sky, but the steps after that seem to be messed up.

Me: "Do you still want to take revenge on those 'relatives' in your life?"

Xie Qinwei: "When my grandfather died, just two years ago, I went back once. My appearance is almost the same as when I first decided to take the Yunxia Sect, and they... 20 years. Some of them are old Go, some people are middle-aged and decadent, and have raised the next generation similar to their former ones. They said to me with a straight face, "Really, why didn't you say that there is a spiritual root earlier? We can report it to you at the beginning. Training class, why are you going to take the entrance exam alone'."

Xie Qinwei: "It's as if they were annoyed and called me trash, pointed at my nose and said that I was as dead as my father who broke up with them, and that I was as shameless as my mother, and they considered my future. It seems to be developing. If it weren’t for the inheritance left by my parents, they would approach me after my parents died unexpectedly? Don’t they just think that I was young, easy to fool, and easy to cheat money out of my hands? It’s a pity, I'm not easy to cheat; but the hateful thing is that I had to have a guardian at that time. Fortunately, my dad knew what kind of virtue his relatives were, and he had already prepared for it, so that I was not robbed by them."

Xie Qinwei: "In fact, my relatives in this life are not too bad. My parents are very good people, much better than those in my previous life. Although they are not related, they are also good memories. As for those who are related to me by blood, But the relatives that my dad has rejected for a long time, they gave me some very bad memories. For a while, I lived on the fantasy of 'you will definitely go bankrupt, live on the streets, and beg me on your knees' Yes, but looking back now... it seems that there is no need to beat the dog in the water again."